one-his daughters told the york daily that his idea of eating healthy was the lettuce on a whopper jr. after he died of a heart attack, they asked if there was any way they would like to personalize the service. >> we said we should go tlouk for a final burger. >> the funeral director arranged for 40 whopper junior, paid for my the family. >> i think it's great that we have somebody that's actually voted that that's their last and final thing that they're going to do. >> one by one, the cars in the funeral procession came through. however many people were in the car, that's how many burgers they got. >> everyone in the hearse got a whopper jr., including the deceased. >> he would be thrilled. there was no doubt. >> after all, just 15 minutes before he died, he was on the home from the hospital joking with his daughter linda, skl as

him to bring her a burger and she did, brought him here to prospect hills cemetery. the family always tried to get him to eat healthier. but no more nagging. as linda laid the bag on the basket to be buried request him. >> twhafs that like? >> she cried. >> i remember thinking dad, this is a first time i can do this and say okay, you can finally have your burger. >> a burger to go. jeannie moos, cnn, new york. >> i understand. there is nothing like a whopper. i'm don lemon. the cnn world headquarters in atlanta. see you back here at 10:00 p.m. why is your hair so good? why is your skin so light? i get asked like are you hispanic or are you mixed?

>> a lot of people think i am black. >> just because you are black doesn't mean you are african-american. i used to identify as caribbean american. >> i am african-american, am i? >> it's always been weird trying to figure out who i am. >> irish, italian, arab. >> black and white for a lot of my life, and black was something i rejected. >> black. >> black. >> you must have been told you are not really black? >> blackness is big enough to hold every shade. >> i am a black woman and these are my black daughters who happen to have a white father. >> i am black. it's never been a question, it's as simple as a beating inside of me. >> i am -- >> i am -- >> i am -- i'm soledad o'brien, over the last five years in this

series, we've explored what it means to be black in america. my mother is black and cuban and my father is white and from australia, and when i was born in the mid 1960s the census doesn't even track the number of mixed race children, because my mother's black, i always considered myself black. and when i was a kid, my mother would tell me, don't let anybody tell you you're not black. but the question i got more often is, what are you? with the 2010 consensus, more young people are grappling with that question. grappling with their racial identity. we follow two women who struggle with their racial identities and who were sick of answering the question, what are you? ♪

>> if i had like a word to describe me, it would most likely be quirky. i am in a band and we do progressive alternative rock, kind of. at first when people meet me, they don't know what i am. people will ask me, what are you? >> 17-year-old nio jones is a singer, a talented poet, a high school senior. but that's not what people want to know. >> i had an experience, and i was writing things. and i was like becca deals with the same things, so let's just make this a group piece. >> what is it you want to do? >> i don't know, pick a book and pick a poem. >> becca is nio's best friend. they do spoken word poetry together. >> it's like, girl, you are so pretty, what are you? a quintessential question for a tanned-skinned girl and a soft kinky curl that doesn't seem to quit, answering human doesn't

seem to be enough for them. they can't handle my racial ambiguous figure. it helps them sleep at night if they can just pin down the reason for my burnt potato redskin. >> the young women are being asked to categorize themselves racially. in a country that has historically put most people in one of two boxes. black or white. can you decide if you are black and white? >> i don't think anybody else gets to pick for me. >> when it comes down to it it's what i say about myself that is most important. >> perry coaches other young poets in the philadelphia youth poetry movement or pypm. many are struggling to define themselves. >> like, literally. >> he is also a spoken word poet with some fame in the city where he is known as vision. >> i am the artistic director

here. >> today and for the next month, he's teaching a poetry workshop, focusing on racial identity. skin color, and discrimination. >> how many folks have been asked what are you? >> you talk about how you identify yourself versus how others identify you and whether you are okay with that. >> it's a challenge he has experienced himself. >> white boy, half breed, what is he? the things i am reading right now, i don't have memorized because i am running from it. i won't lie. i am running from that poem. >> he's running from his past. divorced parents, his father is white, his mother is black. he says she hates her skin color. >> she doesn't like being dark skinned. i have not talked to her in years. i think unconsciously it made it okay to not be comfortable in

your own skin. i didn't want the curly hair or light skin. i wanted to blend in, to be just like everybody else. i used to live here with my mom. my father is white and lived in a black neighborhood. my mother is black and moved us to a white community. i got jumped literally right here on this pavement because i was black. and they would make comments about my mom, and make monkey noises. >> beat up and taunted because to the white boys, he wasn't white enough. >> my father's house, this is home. >> to his father's black neighbors, he was not black enough. >> always jokes here and there and side marks, and light skinned boys think they're there, and and high yellow, things of that nature. >> high yellow meaning light skinned. it's one of the many taunts over the years he felt rejected by the black community. those taunts, the result of

colorism. >> colorism is a system that says that light skinned is more valued than dark skin. >> this professor wants to get people of all shades working together to end colorism. instead of pointing fingers at one another. it's why this dark-skinned woman began the project that looks at the experiences of light-skinned people and what it means to be black. she plans to turn it into a book of photos and essays. >> one drop really started as my own personal inspiration of the other side of blackness. it helped me to kind of think differently, if you will, reflect on the assumptions that i was making about people of lighter skin. >> she believes colorism divides the black community creating identity issues for light-skinned blacks and self-esteem issues for those that are darker skinned. she's felt it herself.

>> i had a friend or somebody that i considered a friend, light skin and blue eyes and she got engaged and i said hello, where is my invitation, and she said to me very matter of fact, girl, my mama would pass out if you came to my wedding. >> because you are dark skinned? >> basically i was too dark. why do you think discussions of colorism in the black community are often quiet? >> there's always been anxiety about what white people think about us. we don't want to give white folks any more fuel for the fire. we'll just deal with that on our own. any time we try to talk to each other, it turns to a war. we are quick to point fingers and blame and say i had this experience because of somebody that looked like you. >> what are you darker people doing in the yellow circle? >> like the professor, she believes colorism divides the black community. it's why she teaches concepts of

colorism to grade school kids in richmond, virginia. >> my goal for the kids is to have them understand what colorism is, hopefully them knowing where it comes from, they will be less likely to perpetuate these behavers. >> i heard somebody over here saying i don't want to be dark, dark, dark. who said that? >> me. >> why don't you like being dark? >> because it's ugly. >> why is dark ugly? >> i don't know. >> so if you were darker you wouldn't like yourself? >> uh-uh. >> this is a safe space. >> vision hears the same thing from the teenagers he mentors, on twitter under hashtag team light skin and see comments like light skin is the right skin, or there are few dark-skinned pretty girls. >> why are we still doing jim crowe stuff? why are we still on slavery terms? why are we putting ourselves through this?

>> so vision is focusing on a conversation about skin color and identity with about 50 other young poets. among the questions they will be tackling, who is black? >> race is a social construct. you are who you say you are. >> what makes you black? >> is black your skin, your culture, your experiences, your struggle? >> who determines who is black? >> the irony is who is black is determined not by black people. >> and how does skin color divide black america? >> we are very aware from our lived experiences that skin color matters. >> once you've identified -- >> these are uncomfortable, often painful questions. >> you have to stop trying to push people in boxes that we are not comfortable in. it's not about me. it's about nio's path, about becca's path. >> the journeys down these paths are just beginning. why are you so reluctant to say i'm black. deal with it. >> i am -- >> i am -- >> i am. abby needs everything to throw a big party for the big game.

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they're two different cultures. they come from africa but 400 years removed. when are we just going to say african and dominican. >> 3, 2, 1. around this room, there are a bunch of signs on the wall. a bunch of identities on the walls, on pillars, chairs. walk around the room, you can only choose one. walk around the room. find out the classification you think you fit that you identify with most, and stand there. go. let's go, let's go! let's go! let's go! >> vision is asking each student

to choose an identity. >> what's over here, female, easy. >> has everybody identified? is everybody comfortable? >> when somebody walks up and says, what are you? this is how you identify? correct? this is where you at, correct? everybody have a seat. >> i went for female. because everything else feels like i am not a person. >> honestly i copped out. i will readily admit, i was like okay i will walk over to other and maybe that's not how i feel, i don't feel like an "other." >> your mother is -- >> black and my dad is white. >> tell me about your mom? >> not much i could tell you because there's not much i know. her and my dad got divorced when i was really, really young and after that, i just never saw her. >> so ydo you say you're black? >> i don't necessarily feel black. i was raised with white people

and white music and white food, and it's not something that i know. >> why are you so reluctant to say i am black, deal with it? i have spiky little black hair, brown skin. >> personally, i feel like i don't -- i don't really feel black, you know? it's a part of me, but it's not everything. >> so is nio black? >> she can idea how she chooses. if we didn't know each other, i would assume she is a black woman. >> ancestrally she's biracial. however, the rest of society, will in all likelihood remind her of her blackness in a million subtle ways. and the fact that her father's white, that she was embedded in white culture will not prevent her from having a black experience in a racialized system. >> tim wise began fighting racism right out of color.

he's written books on racism in america. >> color and who qualified as black or white has been policed not by those who were the targets of oppression but those who set up the system of oppression as a way to dole out the goodies or to withhold the goodies from a society where color has been the dividing line for opportunity. >> how are you? >> good. how are you? >> i'm good. >> today the professor is speaking to vision's workshop about one drop. historically it's the concept to define who is white and who is black. by 1925 nearly every state had a form of the one drop rule on their books. it began during slavery. >> what's one drop mean? >> you have any black ancestry in you at all, and you're black. >> black over here you're enslaved, white over here you're free. you all here in the middle, you don't look like white man, so what are you?

>> they were, for the most part, children of rape. white master, black slave. >> historically, whiteness has been defined as pure. the government then came to define blackness as anybody with any trace of african ancestry, any trace. so this definition of blackness has come to be defined as the one drop rule. so we have this pure bottle of white, clear, pure water. what would happen if we were to take some black paint, just one drop, let's see, and let's shake it up and see. oh, here we go. here we go. oh. that once pure water to quench your thirst has now been contaminated. what this one drop in history has come to mean is 1/32 of

negro/black/african blood. all you need is one person five generations back who is black and that's enough to make you black. take a guess when it was ruled unconstitutional. what year? 1967. the one drop rule was an attempt to save the so-called purity of the white race. >> why do so many black people hold on to the one-drop rule? me included. i think i'm black because my mother's black. >> the one drop rule, racist as it is, actually gave us parameters for our community. we knew who was black, we knew who wasn't. we knew who our issues were. >> and i hate the one-drop rule because of the historical significant of it. >> what do you check when you have to fill out a form like a consensus? >> i check black now. for a long time i checked other. i never checked white. i'm not white. america let's you know real fast that you are not white. i have never been jumped and called cracker or honky.

i have been jumped and called monkey or -- >> you're black. >> i'm black. i'm biracial but i'm black. i'm no different than many historical figures who are biracial and are black and are a part of black history. >> for becca, it's not that simple. >> i think i am from africa. i know i am from africa. but the black kids don't seem to really want me and the white kids don't really want me. wn waf doing things. at university of phoenix we know learning is no different. so we offer personalized tools and support, that let our students tackle the challenge of going back to school, like they do anything else... their way.

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the problem is this -- >> all vision's workshops end with an assignment. >> you are writing a poetry memoir of who you are, what you are. >> for nio jones and becca khalil, it's difficult. >> so what you feel inside, what you feel you are, how you identify yourself is what you are writing right now. >> i want you to spit from your heart. one more minute. wrap it up. we are going to make our way upstairs to the third floor to the drama studio. >> i don't have a race. i am now and forever my own race. i am tired of rabbit holing.

why hide in the ground with everybody else when i can be myself and fly. [ applause ] >> black mother, white father, refuses to put herself in anybody else's box. >> when those white kids say i am one of them i can't say i feel welcome. black has always been the color of my bones. boenz black, black like sand and sky, black like heart and mind. black like me. [ applause ] >> i am black. i am african-american and i am accepting of that and proud of it. >> becca's roots are in africa, north africa. her parents were born in egypt. >> you feel you are african-american? >> yes. >> that's been a struggle for me. >> why is that a struggle? egypt is in africa, right? >> yeah, but it's not in sub saharan africa, it's in fake africa, not real africa. and most egyptians don't identify themselves as african-american. >> becca proudly calls herself

black, but not everybody is buying it. sophia, do you think she's black? >> no. >> why? >> egypt is in africa, but i feel like there's a difference between being from africa and being black. >> so you think that you don't get to choose what you are? >> i don't think you get to choose. i think while we would all love to get to choose who we are and how people see us, you don't always get the chance to explain how you identify. >> what makes somebody black in your mind? >> i think how people see them, a certain amount of experiences. >> so there's a black experience? >> i think so. >> what is the black experience? >> you know, i would probably have to deal with racial profiling, becca would not. >> you think those differences

are the difference between what makes you black and not black? >> i think so. i mean, black, yes, african, no. >> my father is from guinea and my mother is from liberia. i was born in philadelphia. growing up, i was ostracized. people would say, you know, you are not black -- >> people would say you are not really black? >> growing up. that's what they would tell me for a significant portion of my life. >> both of my parents are considered light-skinned blacks, but what makes me black and what makes them black is the culture. >> michaela angela davis is a former editor for "essence," a magazine for black women. today she lectures and writes on race and image.

>> the music, the spirit, the food, the way we love and the way black people have soul. >> i think it's an amalgamation of all of it. i think it's skin tone. i think it's experience. i think it's culture. i think it's a mindset. if you claim black that's what you are. >> i think there's this understanding in the particular racialized society, you have to be seen as black so when we walk into a room they know i am black but might question what you are so it has to do with do people see you as black? if people don't see you as black, you're not black. >> danielle says at first glance, very few people see her as black. >> i have always felt like i am a black woman. >> danielle joined the one drop project in 2011, about a decade after the two women met in grad school. danielle's mother is white, and her father is black. he died when she was a teenager.

>> i made so many assumptions about danielle. i thought that she was that type of light-skinned chick. that she thought she was cute, she thought she was too good and she was standoffish because she didn't fool with us regular folks. what was going on she had an experience growing up in the middle of pennsylvania in a mennonite community. >> lititz, pennsylvania, 92% white. danielle felt she didn't belong in the only world she knew. >> it was this quiet ignoring that i often felt as though people just didn't really want to mess with me, you know, they -- you are good, and stay over there. >> how did you get through? >> i left school. i stopped going. >> you dropped out? >> i didn't officially drop out. they sent a tutor to my house and that's how i finished my junior year. >> she got through that year and

the next and graduated and went to temple university where she studied for her master's in african-american studies and she said she had a deep desire to connect with her blackness. >> my family is very important to me. my white family is who i grew up around but even with them i feel as though i am black, i am not the same as them. i have always felt that way. i know where i feel most comfortable and the way that i want to identify, and the beating that is in me is blackness, it's blackness. there's no question about it. >> that's not the case for nio, who like danielle grew up with a white family. she says to me, well, i haven't had a black experience. i don't feel when i'm around black people that i'm black. is she black? >> i would say she is black.

i would think that maybe she has an idea of what a black experience is, and doesn't identify with that experience, and so therefore she doesn't think that she is black. everyone would say i didn't have a black experience. but i -- i had my own kind of black experience. there isn't just one. >> for nio, the search for her identity is about to open old wounds. >> i don't want to do it, this is gross. >> it's not gross. there's nothing gross about healing. transitions® lenses automatically filter just the right amount of light. so you see everything the way it's meant to be seen. maybe even a little better. visit your eyecare professional today to ask about our newest lenses, transitions vantage and transitions xtractive lenses. experience life well lit. ask which transitions adaptive lens is best for you.

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i self identify as black and grew up as the son of a black father, and my mother is white and i never saw mixed exclusively excluded. they were building their own cultural traditions in america, i feel connected to my russian heritage and jewish ancestry, but connection to white culture is an ail general concept to me. >> nio jones is struggling to recikriecite her poem. >> they always called me white girl. i was never ashamed of myself until they taught me to be

shamed. >> she calls her poem other or the biracial poem. it's about being bullied by black kids for being light skinned. >> i remembered their taunts well into the night. va nil and weirdo so i became ashamed. >> now the tough part, she has to perform it at the first spoken word poetry competition of the season and it's painful and she can hardly get through it. >> i pretended i didn't know they were all wondering if i was adopted. no black mother. how did this tall anglo man end up with this chestnut skinned girl. they doubted he was ever my father. >> only seven hours to showtime and nio can't remember her poem. >> you got it. i can tell you why you are not remembering it, you are not connected to this piece yet. when there's pieces that we don't connect to, we say i wrote it, i'm done. that's the beginning. >> they always call me white girl. i was never ashamed of myself until they taught me to be ashamed. i won't be white girl any more

and i won't be mixed girl any more either. i have come far enough that i'm not ashamed of who i am, but i refuse to be defined by it either. >> don't. don't. >> this is gross. >> it's not gross. it's not gross. there's nothing gross about healing. >> i am just so frustrated. i don't know. >> it's okay. and it gets easier. i promise you it gets easier. >> come here. come here. let go. it's okay. it's all right. you got this. claim who you are tonight. that stage tonight is for you. it's all right, sweetie. let go. >> these are the wounds of

colorism. >> come on, shantae. >> wounds often first inflicted on the playground to both light-skinned and dark-skinned kids. >> they lived in the same neighborhood. they were even in the same grade. >> kiara lee recently graduated from the university of richmond, her passion is educating children about colorism. >> tell me about that. why did the teacher not call on him? >> because she is ugly and black -- >> lashantae brown is 7 years old and her mother is worried her daughter is getting the message dark skin is bad. >> i think my skin is ugly. >> why do you think it's ugly? >> because i don't want to be dark. >> you don't want to be dark? >> no, i want to be light skinned. >> why? >> because light skin is pretty. >> you think so? >> yes.

>> is there anything else? >> yes. >> what? >> that i like to be light, like you. >> and you know what, i want to be pretty like you. >> so we both have something we wish for. >> can somebody tell me what that means? >> my stance is teach the children what it is and show them the history and make them aware of this issue so when they go to school and out in the world, they are armed with this information. >> because he wants to buy her, because her skin is lighter. >> that's just messed up. >> colorism was something that plantation owners used as an instrument to divide and conquer

their own enslaved persons. by extending to lighter-skinned enslaved persons, more privileges. it was a way to get those lighter skinned black folks to be more likely side with the owner if there was a slave rebellion plan. >> you guys sit in the back. >> even among 6 year olds, she is not afraid to shock. today the brown paper bag test. kiara stops each child entering the classroom and compares their skin tone to a paper bag. let me see your arm. put your arm out for me. lighter than the bag you can sit in the front. it's a real test from the early 1900s, used by social organizations, churches and fraternities and neighborhood groups to decide who was light skinned enough to join. was it too extreme to do to little kids? >> the more shocking the activity is, the better, it's going to stick with them. >> why are you all feeling bad? >> she showed us that dark skin had to sit in the back and light skin got to sit in the front. i didn't think it was fair. >> do you think you are less privileged because of the color of your skin? >> 18-year-old sophia washington

one of vision's philadelphia poets has learned the same harsh lessons. >> i think i have less opportunities and less access to certain privileges than other people don't because of the color of my skin. >> when she claims her life is harder, than either of the other two young women, because of her skin color. >> she has a basis for making that claim. >> a professor at duke university. >> there's a lot of evidence that would be consistent with her saying that. >> dozens of study show differences in skin color have huge consequences, including a 2008 study that shows light-skinned black women have a better chance of marrying than darker women. and a 2006 study that shows that dark skin color can affect earning potential. >> we found that darker skin and medium skin toned black men suffered a 10% to 12% penalty in wages relative to white males

but lighter-skinned males had no significant penalty. >> let's be on team light skin or dark skin. >> no surprise, the emotional toll of colorism comes up again and again, as the slam competition gets underway. >> too dark written on our skin. too black taftted on our chest. >> the competition's tough. and nio is nervous. it's chevy truck month! silverado was also recognized for the lowest cost of ownership. hey, what are you gonna do with it? end table. oh. [ male announcer ] it's chevy truck month. now get 0% financing for 60 months, plus trade up to get $1,750 total allowance on a silverado all-star edition. or trade up and choose customer cash plus option package discount for a total value of $7,250.

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slam night at the franklin institute in center city philadelphia. 20 young poets competing for the win. and nio jones is about to face them and their fears. >> everybody show your love and give it up for nio. >> she not only has to be better than the competition, she has to expose old emotions and confront painful questions about her identity. >> they always called me a white girl. i was never ashamed of myself until they taught me to be ashamed. i was never keen on splitting hairs or splitting veins, my blood is not segregated into black and white. in my mind i'm gray. a mixture of all beautiful things, you cannot paint -- >> she rushes to finish. >> i have come far enough to know not to be ashamed of what i am. but i won't let them define me

by it either. [ applause ] >> it was so fantastic just to get it off my chest. i did not stutter or stumble and i didn't forget the words, which was really great. i was so scared i was going to forget the words. >> i know that she can dive so much deeper into the poem and she can tap into that and really get free. >> he forces me to do the things that i would really rather not do, but sometimes the best for you is kind of hard to do. >> for nio, getting through this first slam of the season is a relief, for becca -- >> biting the hands of every guy -- >> it's phenomenal. >> we bark, growl, and tear apart those portraits you painted. we create our own with the corrupted bit of paint you had no use for. we will repaint ourselves as women, holy once more.

>> the winner of the evening. give it up for becca. >> what was that like? >> awesome. i've never won anything before. it was a really wonderful feeling. >> becca khalil feels black. she desperately wants the world to see her that way too. >> i never thought being black was synonymous to your color because i thought that was racist. who wants to be racist in our society? everyone does apparently. because -- because i am not dark, i'm not black. >> so who determines whose black?

>> the important thing to do is to, of course, define yourself however you wish and that's your own right and freedom and you should exercise it but it's also important for people to keep in mind how the larger society is likely to see one. >> the u.s. government has a say when it comes to identity. the u.s. census bureau, white, a person having origins in any of the original peoples in europe. the middle east or north africa. you are defined as white according to the census. >> yep. >> she is not white. so the question really goes to the u.s. government. why are people from north africa white? what purpose does that serve? how did you come to make that decision? they are on the continent of africa, they are of african descent. why not be black? >> the question in this society to some extent is will she be viewed as white by anyone

other than the census taker? the census taker may write it down that way, but unless the police officer or loan officer or teacher or employer for whom she's trying to get a job view her and it's unlikely they will, she will be at the very least a woman of color. >> what role does family play in all this? for nio, that's unclear. >> i already have a poetry book, but look how nice this is, dad. look how pretty that is. >> i think a lot of it is how you are cultured. what is the dominant culture in your household. >> for her it's white. her dad's white, she lives with her dad. >> so there you go. who loved you? who took care of you? >> while she is reluctant to embrace her black roots it's a different story for her 14-year-old sister, kai. >> i feel more comfortable when i am around people that are black. i think that i fit in more with black people. she likes different music than i

do and dresses differently and hangs out with different people. i like more hip-hop, and she doesn't really like that. she hangs out with more white people or black people that act white. i hangout with black people that act black. >> same mother, same father. sisters living on opposite sides of the same wall divided by views on culture and identity. but for nio, that might be about to change. >> there were certain things that kept coming up. female, poet, black. female, poet, black. i'm wondering how come i have to be the odd one out in this situation? ♪ ♪ [ male announcer ] something powerful is coming. ♪ see it on february 3rd. ♪

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i am a black woman and these are my black daughters who happen to have a white father. >> i see my daughters as gifts from god who come from a heritage of german ancestry, irish ancestry. we're raising them as black women because i think that's how the world sees them. i think the united states, we still abide by a one-drop rule. we are not overemphasizing anything but just being who we are. >> online application center, okay.

create new account. >> it is senior year, which means it's stressful and it's extra stressful for nio. >> what are you doing? >> college stuff. they are making me select my primary ethnicity. american indian, asian, pacific islander, black, african-american or white. >> she picked african-american, but she should be able to pick biracial. >> becca khalil is also filling out college applications. >> when i'm applying to college, i don't want to sit and have a long conversation about what bubble i should fill in about my ethnicity. i want to put african-american. i think i am african-american. >> what box do you check? >> i check white. >> you check white? >> yep. so that i can avoid any troubles with getting into college. i am applying for theater.

>> she fears checking black could mess up her chances of acceptance. >> you look at black or african-american you have this image in your head. then you meet me because i have to audition for these schools you meet me and now they don't have any black girls, you know. >> 20 years from now what will you be? >> i want to say 20 years from now i will be like i am black, and people will be like, that's what's up. >> i am a firm believer in the ability to self identify. becca says she's black, i would agree that she is black. >> give me a positive about biracial? >> maybe these girls get to help dissolve these boxes. they have to say for themselves, they have to define what is beautiful and who is black and who is not by sharing images, by sharing stories, by sharing culture.

>> the final workshop is all about sharing. >> write down ten things that identify you. write a group poem about the thing you guys have in common. >> black, ambitious. >> all, educated. >> i have biracial female student poet short musician, afro'd. >> as we were going around the circle there were certain things that kept coming up, female, poet, black. i thought, why do i have to be the odd one out in this situation? i don't necessarily have the odd one out. it's like i can be like, yeah, i am black, too. >> we are the mango queens. >> we are the blossoms of the mango tree, the black woman, the beautiful black tree, the beautiful black woman. >> we are the mango queens.